So there’s a group of pissed gangsters waiting at the school gate, intending to beat you up as soon as you come out.
The bell rings, your class comes out through the gate and you frantically hide yourself behind the back of your unaware classmate. But, as you keep on glancing at both sides, your collar gets pulled from the back by a gangster. Behind him are 5 more thugs in civilian clothing with a grin on their faces. Eventually, they’ve forcibly dragged you into a secluded place. You already know what will happen, either you get serious fatal injuries or get raped. If you’re not physically fit enough, to at least defend yourself, then you’re screwed!
So before anything like this could ever happen, follow the pointers that shall be given as this article progresses.
Prevention First
As the saying goes, “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure”, we must strive to avoid such unfortunate thing to happen.
Everything is governed by the law of cause and effect [1], and for this matter it’s not exempted. There must be a reason on why this gang is angry at you and you may not be aware of it.
There are lots of variables and factors that you must find out like a mathematical equation; just use some common sense and you will hardly miss it.
The major factors that may have caused a gang to pick on you are the following: the way you talk, your appearance, your actions and your behavior and attitude.
First, you should watch your mouth. Most fights start from the exchanges of offensive words because either one of you have just too much pride to let it go. Avoid cursing, without your foul mouth this wouldn’t happen at the first place.
When you get a negative comment against you, do not let your emotions control your actions or your mouth, if so, you have just been psychologically defeated by the person.
If you want to give a reply to his or her stupid remark, which is really unnecessary, try to stay calm. Say something positive to ease up the atmosphere back to neutrality. Like in math, if 5 is subtracted from 0 the result is -5, if you add 5 back, it will be back to zero again, zero conflict and zero familiarity, as if nothing happened. But, you can actually add more than 5 and make that potential bully a friend!
Another key to avoid being picked on by gangsters is not to look weird. A person could look weird by his or her appearance, actions, stature and facial expressions.
Weirdness is not to be mistaken with uniqueness. Weird is something strangely awkward and out of this world which is just irritating. Unique is something one of a kind and pleasant, something that you could be proud of.
Appear normally, at least in public. Before leaving your house, look at the mirror and examine yourself. Is your clothing or uniform properly ironed or does it look like a crumpled up paper? Are your shoes polished shiny or they’re already showing your toes? Does your hair resemble James Bond’s or Einstein’s?
How about your actions? Do you just literally jump on and on, out of the blue? Do you still suck your thumb or fingers? Do you just hit anyone without any reason? And if there is, do you really have to hit so hard?
And there’s stature that you must have correctly. You can tell a person’s personality just by looking at his or her stature. For example, a boy with his shoulders higher than his ears and with his back bent could be speculated as suffering from inferiority complex; while a guy with his chin up and a straight back looks cool and may seem intimidating to most.
How about your facial expressions? As you walk in public, do unintentionally glare at people? Or, do you make pouty lips, which really are an eye sore?
Overall, be balance. Do not go to the extremes, and fall in the gutter of either side. By doing so, you will not only avoid unwanted fights but you could also be labeled as a role model to your schoolmates and everyone around you.
If it doesn’t work… Prepare for Battle!
You may have followed the advice given from this article, but this bully really is persistent. This could only mean one thing; you’re simply the target of a psychopath.
When you’re dealing with this kind of people, it is strongly advised to inform it to the police, barangay captain and/or the guidance councilor. DO NOT handle this problem on your own; even so, be ready for the worst!
Your physical ability alone cannot possibly defeat these masculine brutes, but don’t forget, your mental muscle outmatches theirs!
Decide whether you will get them to “bite the dust” or just defend yourself.
If you want to let them taste your ferocity, then, here are some pointers to remember.
§ Device a strategic and tactical plan to bring them down. You have to be familiar with the battleground, and find strategically defensive spots in it. Know the correct timing, number of opponents, most efficient attack methods, etc.
§ Use psychological damaging comments to demoralize them, in effect, reducing their combat points.
§ Use math. Time your attack, discern their fighting pattern, calculate their speed and be in the upper hand.
Defense Mode
You just laughed at the pointers above, thinking you can’t possibly do such things. Although, you can, you’re just not mentally prepared. One thing for sure, you go for the defensive mode.
The most successful defensive action, in terms of percentage is to run as cowardly as you can! Seriously, if you don’t want to get hurt, take any opportunity to get away.
Self-defense simply means keeping yourself from physical harm. In contrast with doing an offensive, your main objective here is to get the least damage as possible. Disabling your opponents’ to attack more or even before they could ever attack is secondary, but is also crucial in defense.
Before engaging in a defensive combat, you must be well aware of the basics of self-defense. You must know how to block any strike and a lot more than that.
If you are not familiar with the self-defense basics, you can always bring a pepper spray[3], tear gas or a stun gun[4] in your bag, these stuff are totally legal. Just don’t show them off in school or your teacher may confiscate them. One notable user of a stun gun is the “High School Musical” actress, Vanessa Hudgens [5].
In the sports world, the best defense is a good offense, directing you back to attack mode. If you’ve proven that you can take them out, then you can always switch to the offensive.
*Peace bro…
You must remember that fighting is just your last resort. Talking your way through a fight may avoid spending months on a hospital bed. Watch your tone when you talk, “A gentle answer turns away wrath”[6].
Our actions and behavior are summed up to our school’s image. Being a division school leader, this national high school cannot afford a smudge on its reputation.
So instead of fighting, let’s gang up towards excellence. J
References
[1] - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Causality
[2] - http://www.onemanga.com/SWOT/0/45/
[3] - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pepper_spray#Asia
[4] http://motorcyclephilippines.com/forums/showthread.php?t =52107
[5] - http://www.abs-cbnnews.com/04/16/09/vanessa-hudgens-stunning-self-defence
[6] - NKJ Bible Proverbs 15:1
[7] - FPFM National High School – Student’s Handbook
*This was actually a rejected article submission to our school paper, maybe because it's just too radical. teehee!
